are all scorpio guys this crazy?!....scorpions, i need your help plz!

topic posted Sun, August 26, 2007 - 6:58 AM by  ella
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Ok, so i've known this scorpio boy for quite some time now and at the start(when we were 'properly' dating) he was so sweet and nice to me but i kinda did play hard to get and ended up insulting him a few times, which probably may have made it seem like i wasnt serious about wanting a relationship...and he himself btw said to me that he wants a relationship with me. we then broke up cus he felt that 'in different circumstances the relationship would have worked'... and i have no idea what the hell he was on about cuz his life seems absolutely fine to me.
i asked him to get back with me after a month cus i realised how much i loved him and he said no...i then bumped into him accidentally a month after that and we start to chat. i ask him why he doesnt want to get back and he says that its because he 'just doesnt want a girlfriend right now' so i suggest a 'casual realtionship' and he happily agrees. so from then on for the next 6 months thats what goes on and we end up sleeping together. everything is great and talk to each other for hours and hours each day until 1 day i feel that its wrong to just be sleeping with someone who doesnt want anything more with me.

so i tell him that i dont want to see him talk talk to him again...cuz of the reason i mentioned and also that it'd be best that we kept our distance (dont know what i was thinking) and all he says is 'fine!' but seems relly depressed about it. then a week later i realise i love him too much so i start talking to him again he does talk but just seems quieter than b4. the only thing he isnt apprehensive about is sex. i tried to make him laugh but he's just been distant to me ever since. i even apologised for the way i abruptly said i didnt want to see him again.

but the thing is i love this guy more than ive ever loved anyone and im SURE that from all the hints ive been dropping he must know that i really really love him and at times i too feel he loves me (you know when u just know that someone loves you)...like the way they look at you, the way they hold you and the things they do for you etc. BUT then all of a sudden he pulls back for a days and distances himself when i try to ask him why so i just leave him alone and then out of the blue he just comes and asks to meet up again (for sex that is)...i mean i know for scorpio's love is sex...well thats what ive heard but i may be wrong. god, this is so long! but what do u guys think? why do u think he acts the way he does?

and everytime im mean 2 him, he starts softening up....plz plz plz cn sum1 make sense of this bcuz i definitaley cant!
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ella
United Kingdom
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  • I don't mean to be callously dismissive of your obvious emotional conflict, but I rather think that you are the crux of the problem, not him. You are sending this guy mixed messages. Your actions and your declarations are, ostensibly, in total contradiction to each other. He can't determine what you want because you, apparently, haven't been entirely certain. He is protecting himself from your emotional caprice by emotionally dissociating himself from you, because your behaviour, I expect, has convinced him that serious emotional investment in such a turbulent situation will be painful for him. My advice to you is - know exactly what you want. Stop vacillating and ensure that you are categorically certain of your feelings with respect to him, or it's a certainty that you will lose him completely - as a friend, as a romantic interest, everything.
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    ella, I'm in love with a Scorpio in the UK, and I think you are lucky he is still talking to you. :o)

    Scorpios find it hard to trust once you've stepped on their heart. They build a protective wall around themself. So now, every time he feels his emotions are getting deeper with you, he's going to pull away and distance himself. It's his "protection". If you truly love him, only Time and consistent behavior will prove it to him. That may be a looooooong road. I don't think he's acting crazy. I think he's "reacting" to his emotions and things you've done. I hope everything works out for you.
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      Maybe Scorpio's is here teach that love isn't something to be over analyised.
      8th house is pretty much about transforming and breaking through the myth and a maze of self made entrapments .
      He has got a mind and a penis they don't always synch up. So for the most part, you are interacting with one or the other and if you happen to get both on the some page shut up and give thanks and be forever changed LOL! .
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      First off, I think as well you are giving him mixed messages. Scorpios are very deep individuals and have strong desires and feelings like all water signs. Scorps can be on the dark side too. I don't think there will be any trust there either with all your mixed feelings. When you step on a Scorpio's heart, watch out- they can be so cruel and devious and then they shutdown by building a wall around them. I have had many experiences with Scorpio men( I am a Cancer too) It's a superb match for me, but too much water with partners will drown. Also with Scorpio women as friends for me, they are the same way. I, myself got rid of all my scorpio friends- they were all too depressing and emotional and when you mix 2 water signs together( I have several through my chart) it's not a good thing.

      If you can be friends with someone first, that is the best thing, sex is later. Scorps are very sexual people too. Be in control.
  • Fae
    Fae
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    really stop dropping the "hints". you should observe and analyze him a bit more, listen to your heart, and maybe realize that maybe you're hurting him more since the beginning, he retreats like that because he's scared of your inconsistency, and he's probably thinking alike about you the way you do about him, though you two may be different you're representing the same in distant ways. scorpios prefer black-or-white situations, and you're going to both like a thunder; definitely not easy for him. choose a side and stay there....

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