Wow....i've never dated a Cancer before and it sounds like i shouldn't...lol. Thanks for your insight. I have some thinking to do.

>>there is always hope<<

Yes, you can always hope it ends soon...

babe, we have the same birthday... and i have dated cancers... and if your moons aren't compatible, which they aren't , may i humbly suggest an air or fire man? in my experience, the moons have been more important for me with lovers. have you heard of jyotis? your jyotish charts might possibly be compatible and then that's a different story. it may be possible, but with a sag sun and gemini moon, you would feel incredibly tied down, burdened and stifled by the love of a cancer/taurus man... as wonderful as his love would be.

Shane, i'm very sorry to hear that. But believe me not all Sagittarius women are the same. I have a friend who is a Nov Sag married to a June Cancer and let me tell you it's a madhouse. I just don't understand her sometimes and I usually "get" other Sags most of the time but her...i don't know.

But me on the other hand really wants to settle down. Must be my Cancer Moon. I can be impulsive but mostly i'm a planner and am great with saving money. I have never cheated in any relationship that i've had but I have been cheated on. I can go into my shell and need my alone time. I'm not a party girl at all and never have been. I'm mostly a homebody but do get the urge to go out to museums or historical sites, etc. Does your wife have any water in her chart?

I know Sags can be impulsive and eventually she may even regret doing what she did if she ever discovers the grass is not always greener on the other side. Everybody has traits that will rub another person the wrong way but the question is whether or not it's so bad that you can't deal with it. I'm finding that Cancers do not intentionally set out to hurt people with their traits it's just either a defense mechanism to protect themselves or a reaction to something/someone for self preservation. This guy is new to her and he's probably just a distraction and she's probably just using him to make herself feel better.' Soon she may find out that when his negative traits start revealing themselves she might be running for the hills. Hang in there and do what's best for you and the kids. Was marriage counseling even an option before she did this?

When you say she's divorcing you because of your Cancerian traits which one's are you referring to? Did she ever say these traits bothered her? How old r ur kids if you don't mind me asking? Why does she blame you?

Your right, the traights she didn't like is when I would crawl into my shell and wouldn't talk. I had some problems for a while. She got tired of it and descided to move on. I lashed out, and said some bad things, she did too, but we are doing better now. I believe well work things out. My qualities out weigh my negetives. We did merry early, but that wasn't the problem. I had to learn what love is, I had to get on my own and find myself. I was lost before. I hid behind her, and wasn't the stable leader and provider I should have been. But now that I have been on my own I have found myself, and have taken those bad traight, and cast them away. I will not go back into my shell, I refuse. I will face the world head on, and will not back down. As for my children, my goal is to be a father that they run to and throw their arms around me, or if I walk into the room then a big smile comes on their faces. I already see that now. So has she. Her heart has tendered unto me, but who knows. I'm man enough to look past her affair, and move on together if she is willing, if not then whatever. It hurt. She's the only women I have ever let into my heart, and she will be their for ever. Just how it is with me. It's one of my good traights, but it hurts too. thanks for replying YaMama