I wrote recently:

Also, with all of this masculine energy in your chart, you can wind up being in the assertive role, in the masculine role. This rarely ever works out well for the woman. I see this as very possible in your case as well. What happens when the woman is in the masculine/assertive role is she has to do all the work. As you report and have already indicated in his correspondence, you called him / you initiated contact with him and you're asking me if you should continue to initiate contact with him and try to make this relationship work again. If you do this it will be just like it was before. Eventually you will get tired of having to do all the work, you will start to blame him for not being attentive enough, you will start to feel neglected and overlooked.

So ask yourself why you do this in relationships. Much of it has to do with your fear of being receptive. It is harder to be receptive because it demands more courage. Yet, when a woman is in a relationship it is her feminine side that is trying to bond emotionally. That feminine side is one of receptivity, not assertion. You must realize that any time a woman feels like she has to be in the initiating role in order to keep the relationship together, there's going to be trouble for both people. The woman will not be bonding emotionally because she's feeling overlooked and the man is not bonding emotionally because he's feeling nagged and "mommied". Men bond in relationships when they give and when the woman they want to give to wants to receive. Nothing is better for a man then to have the woman they love and who they think is beautiful want to receive everything he wants to give. This is what makes a man keep coming back over and over again. As soon as you start criticizing a man you are training him to stop giving to you.

That doesn't mean that you have to receive everything the man gives you. It does not mean that a woman becomes powerless. No. It means she allows the man to give and if he did something she doesn't like she tells him nicely, with love, et cetera. But there is a huge difference between being receptive and open to what a man wants to give, staying empowered in your feminine nature when you receive something unpleasant, and the typical type of "strong woman" - "using my anger to protect myself" type of stuff that the modern woman uses in a confused way to try to compete with a man. Most of the time this is simply a way to avoid their fear of being vulnerable. It ALWAYS leaves the woman confused about herself. Because you see, even if the man gives her something she does not like / acts like jerk, if she reacts with anger / acts like a jerk (no matter how she justifies it later) there will be confusion about whether the man is really the idiot or whether she is.

When she stays true to empowered feminine principles (strength through love, patience and receptivity) she will see how much masculine integrity the man has without confusion.

Her female strength will demand the reciprocation of masculine strength. If he does not have it, she will know then and there.

Think about it. How many times have you said.. "is it him or is it me?" when you "use your anger", .. etc.

Anger is just as destructive when you use it as it is when a man uses it.

In fact you are not "using your anger" it is USING YOU - and for the same reason we all use it - PROTECTION.

But protection from what? Is there a real threat? Or another shadow game of the ego? The same old button getting pushed? The same old reaction over and over again?

There is no love in fear.