David, WOW thank you for all that information!
I am now going to go torture myself and look up my boyfriends chart with mine - I know some of the stuff you talked about but i am a little iffy on the 6th, 8th 12th distance stuff. My moon is in Pisces and his is Libra - in some books they say we are opposite moons but I know we are not - I am at the end of Pisces tho and he's at the beginning of Libra.....I find we either are extremely accomodating of each other OR I get very lost emotionally and he gets very imbalanced - yeah, that's when it's bad!!

<<Moon - same as your Sun sign or opposite your Sun sign, or of the same element. Also, their Moon should be opposite or same element as your Moon. This is where it gets tricky, and whether it can be perfect or not depends on your own Sun/Moon relationship. If you can't get it perfect, than at least don't get their Moon 2nd, 6th, 8th, or 12th from your Sun or Moon. >>

david,

i guess i have one of those tricky sun/moon combinations-leo moon & capricorn sun. after eliminating their moon from the 2nd/6th/8th/12th from my sun or moon all i have available is libra, scorpio, aries, & taurus for their moon. :(

what do you mean "conjunction across synastry" and "tight orb"? forgive me, i'm still in the beginning stages of learning astrology.

I agree.

Hmmm,... compatibility! A delicious topic for any discussion. Astrologically speaking, compatibility can be boiled down to a generic formulae, however the true needs for compatibility is truly found in the individual charts. Not everybody NEEDS the same things to satisfy them in a relationship.

There are some truly important factors to consider when comparing a chart in synastry, but the individual chart should ALWAYS be considered first, then see if the new companion/partner is an appropriate match.

For instance, if a person has a strong signature in their chart of having mostly trines, then perhaps what they desire in a partner is a challenging square to key planets involved in their trine to kick them into action. Conversely, someone with a strong signature in their chart of mostly squares may seek someone to trine these planets to give them some much needed, playful "diversion" and thus bringing them comfort and rest from their already over-active personality. A person with a T-square may even seek an "anchor" to fill in their T-square to make it a Grand square to maximize the energy.

But these are just a few possibilities to what someone may need in a relationship, and this also depends on where they are at in their own personal growth.

A good place to look for compatability in synastry is to always look at the "key players" in love: sun, moon, Venus, Mars, and the ascendant. The secondary "team players" are Mercury and Jupiter for communication, friendship, personal philosophy, ethics and/or religion, and the feeling of "luck" and well-being they bring to each other. The tertiary players are Saturn, Uranus, Neptune, and Pluto as they are the most challenging in the long-run and play out over time. Uranus may bring an instant feeling of attraction and impulsiveness innitially in bring about an interest in getting together, but may not last if it is in a hard aspect, including the conjunction.

Sun aspects to any personal planet or ascendant is good for an initial recognition of the person and reinforcement of ego energies.
It is also good for health when the aspects are flowing or conjunct. Hard aspects to the sun from personal planets can bring about dual repsonses in the sun of both sexual stimulation but also competition and suspicion of motives, depending on the other aspects in the individual's charts of the aspected planets. For instance, if Mars is in a square aspect to the partner's sun in synastry, but has supportive aspects in the individual's chart, then the sun will recieve challenging energy to grow and feel sexually stimulated by the partner. However, if the same aspect occurs in synastry but the Mars person has challenging aspects to Mars in their chart, then the sun will likely feel suspicious of the Mars person's motivations towards them and become defensive, suspicious, and guarded around them. The relationship will be extremely difficult to get off the ground.

The same can be true of the moon. Conjunctions and trines to the moon from the partner's sun, moon, Venus, Mars, or ascendant are always a good sign of compatibility, but friendships also carry the same signature. Squares, oppositons, and quincunx aspects to the moon from the sun, Mars, Venus, or the ascendant are not necessarily "bad," but require much effort to find a comfortable fit. When these aspects occur in synastry then you should look for an easy aspect from Neptune or Jupiter to the planets involved to ease the tension and open a door to a more peaceful coupling. If no such aspect exists, then you may not ever find that "sweet home" you're looking for.

Venus is always happy to receive any attention from the "love planets." There really isn't a "bad" aspect to Venus, because the "perfect fit" depends on what the individual Venus needs. Again, look at the individual charts to find out the key to compatability there.

Mars is an aggressive planet, no matter what kind of aspect he gives, but you can measure his intensity by the individual chart's signature for Mars. Go from there.

Saturn is a "necessary evil" when it comes to compatability. You really need to have at least a few significant aspects between charts involving Saturn to insure some longevity. Hard or soft aspects are really not important here. What is important is that Saturn links up to a personal planet, especially one of the love planets, to forge a bond of responsibility and maturity in the relationship.

Pluto will always bring about transformation in aspect to personal planets in synastry. Depending on how much the individual's need, want, tolerate, or desire this in a relationship determines the outcome of a relationship with Pluto aspects.

perfect compatibility would not be as much fun...no fighting and no making up!
we all need someone who can push our buttons once in awhile...lol
like I say to my partner, "I'm not perfect but I'm perfect for you!"
...thanks for putting it in perspective Grace Jones!

I have to agree that "perfect compatability" doesn't exist because that denotes a state of stasis and we are all growing and changing as human beings. Therefore compatability needs to be flexible. I think that "perfect" is an innappropriate ideal to seek unless what you are seeking is someone who can help you grow as much as you help them grow and you grow together rather than apart. That would be "as good as it gets" in the world of human relating.

I have my settings for threads set at unthreaded.

~V~